Lets face it, whether you’re in the nonprofit, public, or private sectors receiving feedback can be nerve-racking for the lot of us. Even when we use softer terms like “constructive criticism,” we still live in fear once performance review season is around the corner. Though we can’t control the feedback we get from others we can control how we receive it. Here are a few tips from Fast Company…
1. Be flexible about who you are…
Regardless of your astrological sign, many people, especially leaders, have a sense of “fixed identity” that can make feedback, “a verdict about their core being.” Resetting to a more fluid mindset by assuming that who you are today may not be who you are in the future allows feedback to serve its purpose: a tool for learning and growth.
2. Curate criticism.
Not all feedback is “good feedback.” Sometimes it’s vague, sometimes it’s misguided–sometimes it’s just plain wrong! Tune-up your deep listening skills, and curate which feedback is useful, and which simply isn’t. One way to filter out unhelpful feedback is to ask the right follow-up questions, “What specifically prompts you to say this?” or “What do you think I should be doing differently?”
3. Vague questions get vaguer responses.
“How you ask others for their opinions of you and your work will determine whether or not their responses are useful.” Asking for generic feedback will not get you the answers you need to make real change in yourself. Be specific!
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